How tape and gauze helped heal a relationship

You've got to jump off cliffs all the time and build your wings on the way down. 

-Annie Dillard      

Months ago, when my patient and his wife were in my office for the very first time, I could already tell that he would resist any display of sympathy from her and she would clearly be uncomfortable with ever being a caregiver for him. 

There was tension in the room. He “had not listened” when she had told him to get the spot on the inside of his cheek checked. She “had gone off and